Monday, March 12, 2012

Bloomin' Monday: Moving Overseas, Part 3

Hi again!

Sorry I haven't written much lately.  With it being the end of the term at the school where I teach online and about a million other things going on, I just haven't really had much of a chance - or desire, to be honest.  :)  Hopefully that will change soon.

In the meantime, here's "the rest of the story" from my Mom.  (If you're just joining this series on How to Make the Most of Moving to a New Town, you can read the earlier posts here.)  I hope you'll also take a few minutes to visit my Mom's blog here.

Once I dealt with the basics of surviving in Ecuador and could finally prepare a decent meal using foreign ingredients, non-North American-made appliances, and factoring in an altitude of 8500-9000 ft. (we were in the Andes Mountains, not on the coast or in the rainforest), THEN I felt as though I could finally “bloom where I’d been planted.”  Because, after all, when I could extend hospitality – a fancy word for “having folks over to the house” – then friendships could be developed and warmth and love could be extended, Connie-style.
                Many people came through our front door, representing a wide gamut of economic levels and social backgrounds.  We hosted numerous missionaries and volunteer teams from the States, but some of our most memorable times came when Ecuadorian and Quichua people were in our home.  (Quichua are the indigenous people of Ecuador, the poorest on the economic ladder). 
                Three young Quichua men came every Thursday night for supper and for training in church planting.  At first, I was pretty nervous about what I would serve them, but that only lasted through the first meal.  Those guys ate everything I put in front of them, without questions, and without any indication that they “didn’t like it.”  I tried a few Southern dishes, but mostly I stuck to soups (very common in the Andes since it gets cold when the sun goes down), chicken, rice, salad, and bread.  There were never any leftovers because whatever they didn’t finish at the table they happily took home for later.  These young men earnestly prayed for daily work in order to provide “daily bread” for themselves and their families.  For them, food was survival.  It was not a matter of taste preferences. What was given to them to eat was accepted and eaten.  Period.  I must admit that it’s now a little harder for me to be tolerant of picky eaters.
                Ecuador is one of the world’s biggest exporters of bananas, yet I was never able to find a single box of Nilla Wafers for sale there.  I couldn’t imagine these folks not experiencing the delight of banana pudding.  Once when a volunteer team was coming in, I asked them to bring me some Nilla Wafers and could hardly wait for the next time we had Ecuadorian guests.  I watched eagerly for the reaction to my yummy dessert.  What a disappointment!  They took a couple of polite bites and then all of a sudden were “too full for anything else.” (These were Ecuadorians, you understand, not Quichua).  Then, it dawned on me.  They weren’t used to so much sugar.  To their tastes it was probably so sweet it made their teeth hurt.  Oh well.  From then on, I saved my Nilla Wafers and banana pudding for visiting Gringos (a.k.a. missionaries starved for tastes from home). 
                We got a further lesson in Latin American culture when another Ecuadorian family came for dinner.  As we finished the main course, I started clearing the table for dessert, and Steve jumped up to help me.  The Ecuadorian husband – who was a product of a highly-macho upbringing -- was very disturbed by Steve’s actions.  Some rapid words of Spanish were exchanged, and his wife and daughters quickly began to help me.  In his mind, that was NOT a job for a man, and I’m reasonably sure he didn’t plan to start such a practice at his own supper table.  Evidently, we were forgiven, because we enjoyed many more meals with this family, but Steve kept his seat when this man was present.  “When in Rome . . . .”
                The longer we stayed in that beautiful country, the easier it was to “bloom.”  After all, the country itself has spectacular natural beauty, and the lush vegetation provided a continuous palette of brilliant color.  Poinsettias grew as big as trees.  Calla lilies, so expensive here, were very common, and the roses, oh, the roses.  I was able to buy a dozen beautiful long- stemmed ones in any color at any time for less than $1.50. 
                I could write for days about the blessings we received as a result of our time in Ecuador.  If you ever get a similar opportunity, I hope you’ll grab it, and I hope you’ll find your own ways to bloom while you’re there.
Next week, I'll be back for Bloomin' Monday.  Just a couple more posts in this little series.  I hope you've found it to be helpful.  How are you bloomin' these days?




This post is linked up to one or more of the following blog parties.  Check them out! Monday: Menu Plan Monday on I'm an Organizing Junkie Wednesday: Works for Me Wednesday at We are THAT Family Friday: 5 Minute Friday at The Gypsy Mama, Company Girl Coffee at Home Sanctuary Other days: A Wise Woman Builds Her Home

Monday, March 5, 2012

Bloomin' Monday: Moving Overseas, Part 2


Hi!

Just in case you're new to my Home on the Web, Welcome!  In addition to random posts about recipes, dancing on bridges, and crying in Subway, each Monday I've been writing a little series on Making the Most of Moving to a New Town.  (I've heard that a writer is supposed to write what she knows, and moving is something I know a lot about!)  All of my moves have been within the US, so my examples are pretty much American.

Last week, my mother made her first guest appearance here on the ol' blog, talking about her move (with my Dad) to Ecuador and the challenges she faced adjusting to life in a new country.  Today, she continues the story....


Once we got some recognizable food in the kitchen, the serious business of figuring out how to survive in our new environment began in earnest.
Water.  What could be more basic than safe drinking water and a hot shower?  Well, finding out where and how to purchase the huge jugs of purified water and portable gas cylinders to attach to the water heater were top priorities.  Along that same line, decontaminating fresh fruits and vegetables was necessary in order to prevent internal parasites.  Poor Steve.  Since he ate out in the countryside more than I did, he had 4 bouts of parasites while we were in Ecuador.  My one case came from the food in a little café we THOUGHT we could trust.  Rough stuff.
Driving.   All of the vehicles owned by the Mission Board had stick shifts, and I never learned to drive anything but an automatic.  Uh oh.  However, by the time we were issued a car, I had already decided that I wasn’t fearless enough to drive where there seemed to be no rules and where horns honked incessantly.  Not only was the traffic chaotic, but the roads were in horrible condition, and drivers were fighting for road space with belching buses and taxis that appeared to be held together with duct tape.  One unwritten rule we learned finally sealed the deal about my driving.  If someone is involved in an accident where any kind of injury occurs, everyone is taken to jail until all the bribes are paid.  Yikes!!!  It was bad enough that Steve drove with that “rule” hanging over his head.  Being chauffeured by Steve, walking, or taking a taxi was immensely preferable in my mind to spending the night in an Ecuadorian jail cell. 
Internet.  With all of our children and family members at least 3000 miles away, this was Numero Uno on my “list of things that must be done.”  About a week after we arrived, Steve and I went downtown to mark this off our list.   He dropped me off at the office and went on to accomplish some other things.  Since I’d had Spanish in high school and college, it stood to reason that I would be able to communicate enough to be understood.  Who knows what I really said?  And further, who knows what that dear receptionist was saying to me?    I just remember that after about an hour, I broke down in tears of frustration and despair because I was feeling overwhelmed and in desperate need of a way to hear from my children.  We were able to finally work things out, but I still recall that incident as a time when I “lost it.” 
Medical and Dental Services.  One of my biggest fears while we were on the field was that Steve or I would have a serious illness or injury and require medical care.   One day Steve was out treating some animals for our Quichua church friends, and a cow stepped on his foot.  We went to a doctor that was recommended.  The poor man had absolutely NO diagnostic equipment of any kind and just pulled some pharmacy samples out of a pile in a cabinet for Steve to try.  L  On another occasion, a huge filling fell out of one of my teeth, and in spite of my long-standing fears about dentists, I knew I was going to have to have something done.  Steve bravely volunteered to “go first” and try out one or two.  He came in from the first dentist and said, “Well, you won’t be going to THAT one.  He didn’t even wear gloves and there was no place to spit.”  Yikes!  The good news is that by the time I did have a true medical crisis and needed to have my gallbladder removed, we had discovered a good hospital with very competent doctors, and my surgery was a big success.  Thank you, God.
In spite of all these challenges, there were many pleasant, happy things going on.  We became good friends with our Spanish teachers and actually enjoyed the requirement of spending many hours each week out in stores and markets practicing the language.  That’s where we truly began to understand the culture and to do the things we had gone to Ecuador to do – build relationships and share the love of Jesus. 
Buds were sprouting.  Could the blooming be far behind?
My mother's a great story-teller, don't you think?  I hope you'll come back next week for the rest of the story.  Until then, you can visit her blog here.  Keep Bloomin'!



This post is linked up to one or more of the following blog parties.  Check them out! Monday: Menu Plan Monday on I'm an Organizing Junkie Wednesday: Works for Me Wednesday at We are THAT Family Friday: 5 Minute Friday at The Gypsy Mama, Company Girl Coffee at Home Sanctuary Other days: A Wise Woman Builds Her Home

Thursday, March 1, 2012

2012 Goals: Monthly Checkup

It's that time again - time to check up on my goals for the year.  Some good, some bad, some in between.

Have a More Welcoming Home
This continues to be a struggle.  Between being a wife, Mama, homeschool teacher, online math teacher, housekeeper, checkbook-balancer, and chief cook and bottle washer, there never seems to be enough time in the day.  I've got some ideas brewing on how to adjust this, but nothing concrete just yet.

Improve My Health and Well-Being
I sort of fell off of the WW wagon the last few weeks, but I haven't given up.  I just need to find my mojo again on that.  Trouble is, getting ice cream with the kids is just so much more fun....

Continue to Improve in Homeschooling
There's still lots of room for improvement here, but the planning is going better.  I now put two weeks worth of assignments in a notebook for Nathan, and he loves being able to see what needs to be done each day and check it off as we finish.  We also started Singapore Math a couple of weeks ago, and we both really like it so far.  I've been a bit bewildered by what Horizons didn't seem to teach him last "year," but I've no doubt he'll get caught up very soon.  Meanwhile, his reading skills seem to be growing by leaps and bounds which is thrilling to see.  I'm still searching for the right phonics/spelling/literature curriculum for next year, so suggestions are appreciated.

Kaplan
Things at Kaplan are going well.  I've been assigned two sections of my current course for next term, so I'm hoping to continue some new procedures that are helping me.  With final projects coming in, the next couple of weeks will be more challenging.

Personal Growth
My reading has slowed a little, but still progressing.  I'm also in the middle of two Bible studies that I enjoy.  New friendships are continuing to develop.  The blogging has also slowed down for a variety of reasons, but I have a list of posts I'm hoping to write in the coming weeks including Perms: A Cautionary Tale, Couch: Symbol of a Marriage, I Married Mr. Darcy, and a continuation of the Dear Younger Me saga (it's about to get good!).  Any special requests?  Anyone?  Bueller?

So that's the state of this Mama.  Still moving forward, albeit at a slow pace.  How are your goals coming along? 



This post is linked up to one or more of the following blog parties.  Check them out! Monday: Menu Plan Monday on I'm an Organizing Junkie Wednesday: Works for Me Wednesday at We are THAT Family Friday: 5 Minute Friday at The Gypsy Mama, Company Girl Coffee at Home Sanctuary Other days: A Wise Woman Builds Her Home
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